THE EXPRESSION

  I want to talk about another common statement: ‘Do unto others what you want them to do unto you.’ As much as this is believed to be a Biblical principle, it often ends up being used as a tool for emotional blackmail, especially when the person it's being used on is not outspoken or expressive. You'll just hear: ‘Do unto others what you want them to do unto you.’ But let’s flip the page for a moment. Do you do unto others what you want them to do to you? Can you take what you give? I’m asking because the way some people treat others, they wouldn’t tolerate half of it if the roles were reversed. That’s when you start hearing things like: ‘I don’t take nonsense.’ ‘I have zero tolerance for disrespect.’ Yada yada... Calm down! You’re reacting this way because now, it's happening to you. But given the same conditions, at that exact moment, Time T, what would the outcome have been if the tables were turned? Would you have done better, or worse? Here’s the thing: You want peopl...

Do You Truly Love Yourself?   I’m sure most of us are familiar with the saying, ‘...love your neighbour as yourself’.  A lot of us make use of it regularly without actually having an understanding of what it is. It’s a beautiful instruction, but often quoted without a true understanding of what it really means. There may be other views on it, but today, I want to share my view with you, and I hope it gets you thinking. Before you go all ‘love your neighbour as yourself’, ask the big question: ‘Do I love myself?’ It is important to ask that because you can’t give what you don’t have. You must love yourself enough to be able to love someone else right. It is the amount of love you have for yourself that will reflect on how you treat yourself and the people around you, just like a mirror image of yourself.  What Does Self-love Mean to You?  Self-love is beyond feeling ecstatic or having butterflies in one’s tummy. Self-love does not always mean comfort or pleasure; it i...

   

  There are many things we often take for granted, and one of them is the simple phrase: ‘thank you’. As brief as it is, 'thank you' is a complete sentence. It speaks volumes. It’s a way of saying, ‘I see what you’ve done for me.’ ‘I couldn’t have done this on my own, but you showed up.’ ‘You didn't have to, but you did anyway.’ And that’s powerful. What I love most about gratitude is this: it opens doors. Not just physical doors, but emotional and spiritual ones too. Take the story of the ten lepers in the Bible; when Jesus healed them, only one came back to say thank you. And what happened? He didn’t just get healed; he was made whole . It’s as if his gratitude unlocked a deeper blessing. He came back, perhaps thinking: ‘Ah! You did what I couldn’t do for myself all these years… and now, I feel whole again. Thank you.’ Saying thank you is more than good manners. It’s an act of humility. It’s choosing to acknowledge the effort , the presence, the care, the sacrific...

    Dear Young Lady, These days, it’s almost like the world expects every girl to have a boyfriend. Being single is seen as weird. Being a virgin? Even weirder. Say you’ve never dated, and they look at you like you’re broken. You might even hear the laughter or see the side-eyes. But don’t give in. Don’t bend under that pressure. Your body is sacred , and you deserve to treat it as such. You are not strange or backward for choosing to stay single. You’re not missing out. You’re simply choosing what works for you and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. It’s okay not to have a boyfriend. It’s okay not to follow the crowd. It’s okay to set boundaries and stick to them. You are not public property. You don’t have to give everyone access to your space, your heart, or your body. You get to choose who comes in and who stays out. So the next time someone shames you for standing your ground, stand even taller. Let them know this is your choice. You’re not judging anyo...

Every day, someone somewhere questions their worth because of a comment made about their body. In a world that constantly tells us how we should look, it’s easy to forget that we all carry invisible battles. That’s why I want to speak up about something personal and powerful today: self-esteem . The subject of healthy self-esteem has been widely discussed. Today, I want to add my voice to amplify its importance in the life of the average person, men and women alike. In very simple terms, self-esteem is how one sees oneself. It’s confidence; a feeling of certainty. Whenever that feeling begins to fade, it’s said that a person is experiencing 'low self-esteem.' Many factors can act as soap and water, washing away a person’s self-esteem and stripping them of the glory of boldness and presence. One of those factors is self-doubt. The moment you start doubting your ability to do things that come naturally to you, your self-esteem begins to erode. Fear and feelings of inadequacy ...

While growing up, I enjoyed having pets around me. I still do, though not as strongly as I used to be. I was such a pet parent that I would cry if anything happened to my dog or cat. But today is not about my dog or cat. It’s about one weird love I had for baby mice. Yeah, you read that right. I don’t know if it’s just me, but I loved that soft, innocent, pink, almost transparent skin of the baby rats. And whenever grandma was declogging the store, I was sure to see one or two of those cuties. She would always shout, ‘Don’t keep them! They’ll become harmful when they grow.' But the pet parent in me would not heed that advice. One day, while I was rearranging my bookshelf, I noticed pieces of paper scattered across the shelf. Curious, I started checking to see what had happened. All of a sudden, something ran past me with the speed of light. My heart skipped a beat, but I kept searching and voilà! My favourite book on the shelf had lost its title from serving as daily food to my no...