Let's Talk Modesty

Most times, when the word modesty is mentioned, people’s minds fly straight to dressing.

Come, take a seat, and let’s talk.

Modesty is all-encompassing. From talking to eating, to dressing, to making friends, to whatever you’re doing, modesty should be considered.

So, what is modesty?

In layman’s terms, it’s simply doing things in ‘not-so-loud’ ways. Let’s just say: keeping things simple.

You’ve probably been using the word ‘demure ’, perhaps because it recently trended on social media, without realizing it means modest. Now you know.

Back to our discussion.

Being modest doesn’t mean lowering your standards or demeaning yourself. No.

In fact, it speaks volumes about your personality.

Let’s take dressing as a case study.

Some people dress to kill, not to fit. Before you pick a dress and feel that its luxury is what makes you valuable and seen, it’s important to know this: the dress doesn’t give you value.

You give the dress value. You make the dress seen.

Without you, that dress would just sit in the showroom, hidden behind glass.

Understanding that you are the one who gives value to things, not the other way around, will help you place value on yourself first.

I’m not against fashion. But I’m against placing more worth on things than on yourself.

Going all out to wear a ‘loud’ dress when your values and personality are not loud, that’s not demure. I believe it’s a sign of low self-esteem: attaching more worth to mundane things than to yourself.

I hope this finds you well.

✍️The Expression Voice